The death of a loved one is always a difficult moment to deal with. This ill-timed consequence is at times swift and surprising. Do we ever really heal from this abrupt misfortune? We survive and for many of us that is all we can hope for. There are many ways to deal with loss. Experts call these coping mechanisms, productive or sometimes careless methods for facing our emotions.
Music, art, exercise, television, and every other form of entertainment can be used as a way to cope with our loss. Writing a message on a personalized card or note to a family member or friend is also an approach. We cannot forget the people we have lost, which means we must work even harder to remember those who are still with us. Many of us aren’t much for words especially during a moment like this. We muster enough courage to say the usual (I’m sorry and if there is anything I can do), which is plenty for this occasion.
The time frame to heal is always undefined. And our method to cope with what is going on is always left to what works best at the time. Today, it’s mailing out our condolences to someone we are thinking about, written on personalized stationery. Tomorrow who knows?