RSVP-ing Etiquette

Saturday I saw my soon to be sister-in-law. She is getting married to my youngest brother in a just few months. At this point she is head first into the wedding planning excitement and is waiting and watching as her wedding shower responses come back in the mail. The cutoff date to respond is Tuesday and she is starting to sweat it, she is still waiting for a handful of responses.
We decided that we would give phone calls or even send personalized notes to those who had not responded by the date.
I went through the same thing last year waiting for my response cards, I know how it feels to be so excited about your shower and people are not yet responding. I didn’t realize until I had my own wedding shower how important it is to respond and quickly to show enthusiasm about the person’s special event. I tried to comfort her and let her know that a lot of people wait until the last day to respond. My own experience taught me to respond as soon as I get the invite and I am sure the next time she gets an invite she will RSVP much more quickly also.
Here are some general rules:
1. Reply as soon as possible, Ideally within two day of receiving the invitation
2. If you cannot reply that quickly send a personalized note or message with a brief explanation of what is holding you up
2. Depending on what kind of party it is offer to help or bring a dish to pass
Why reply:
There are many reasons…
1. The person is excited and is looking forward to your response
2. Parties can require lots of planning and the planner needs time to know the quantity of food, drinks and favors
3. People who respond are more likely to be invited to the next party






